Polyamorous
OK, I am going to make a case for polyamorous relationships. Just as a note, this is not a recent thought in my head, not inspired by any recent events, it came in to my mind while reading Salman Rushdie's Enchantress of Florence, the relationship between Angelica, Mirror and Argalia. This is only a logical argument.
First, I would need to define love, so let me say it is an unconditional feeling of likeness, that is you like them despite their flaws and mistakes and quirks, etc. We have this feeling in many forms with many sets of people. It is most commonly found within family (siblings and parents), you might also feel it with some of your friends, and , also more central to this article, towards our girlfriends /bfs/wives/husbands.
There is also a need to differentiate between the various types of love we have with each set of people- friends, family and the opposite-sex (or same-sex). Apart from the obvious physical ones, I guess there is also a level of intimacy that differentiates and the opposite-sex (or same-sex) one wins there (in most of the cases).
Anyway, the point is, I don't understand what property of this love makes us have it constrained with only one person (at a time). We do share family/friend love with multiple people, what is so special about this third category? From a personal viewpoint, for argument's sake, lets say, I have some same-sex friends and we share that kind of intimacy. If we were gay, I can totally imagine a polyamorous relationship.
Look, every generation has some features that the future ones point at, and say 'how did that absurd thing make sense to them?'. I guess it will be monogamy for ours. See how long monarchy was the norm, but eventually, how unanimously we have discarded it. We do tend to move towards more liberal ideas with time, and this seems to be a reasonable extrapolation.
The only thing stopping us to not date other people as a couple, is the artificial constraints of society. (Another thing stopping might be that it is unnecessary and tiresome, but still one could be open to it, without actively seeking it). I am glad though we are shackled in these dogmatic chains of our society, and not complicate the matters of love any further.
P.S.: I was googling the word polyamorous, to see if I used it right, and found that there is a polyamorousdefinition.com. This is more mainstream than I thought. This post might be redundant.
First, I would need to define love, so let me say it is an unconditional feeling of likeness, that is you like them despite their flaws and mistakes and quirks, etc. We have this feeling in many forms with many sets of people. It is most commonly found within family (siblings and parents), you might also feel it with some of your friends, and , also more central to this article, towards our girlfriends /bfs/wives/husbands.
There is also a need to differentiate between the various types of love we have with each set of people- friends, family and the opposite-sex (or same-sex). Apart from the obvious physical ones, I guess there is also a level of intimacy that differentiates and the opposite-sex (or same-sex) one wins there (in most of the cases).
Anyway, the point is, I don't understand what property of this love makes us have it constrained with only one person (at a time). We do share family/friend love with multiple people, what is so special about this third category? From a personal viewpoint, for argument's sake, lets say, I have some same-sex friends and we share that kind of intimacy. If we were gay, I can totally imagine a polyamorous relationship.
Look, every generation has some features that the future ones point at, and say 'how did that absurd thing make sense to them?'. I guess it will be monogamy for ours. See how long monarchy was the norm, but eventually, how unanimously we have discarded it. We do tend to move towards more liberal ideas with time, and this seems to be a reasonable extrapolation.
The only thing stopping us to not date other people as a couple, is the artificial constraints of society. (Another thing stopping might be that it is unnecessary and tiresome, but still one could be open to it, without actively seeking it). I am glad though we are shackled in these dogmatic chains of our society, and not complicate the matters of love any further.
P.S.: I was googling the word polyamorous, to see if I used it right, and found that there is a polyamorousdefinition.com. This is more mainstream than I thought. This post might be redundant.
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